CW: ableism
Very recently (as of yesterday!) I was diagnosed with ADHD, inattentive type. This subtype of ADHD is characterized by the following symptoms:
- Failure to pay close attention to details
- Careless mistakes
- Difficulty maintaining sustained attention on disliked tasks (e.g. homework)
- Losing important items (e.g. school materials, keys, cell phone)
- Not seeming to listen when spoken to directly
- Not following through on instructions and failing to finish schoolwork or chores
- Trouble staying organized
- Getting distracted easily
- Being frequently forgetful in daily activities (e.g. brushing teeth)
Source: Child Mind Institute
I’ve occasionally thought that I might have this subtype of ADHD, especially Winter 2021/Spring 2022, which was the height of my executive dysfunction impairment throughout college. My functioning was so impacted that I literally had to barter spoons between brushing my teeth and taking a shower over going to class. I was struggling so hard, and deeply wished I had the support structure in place so that I could be living some semblance of a life. Instead, I was struggling to find the surface, let alone keep myself afloat.
Inattentive ADHD most often is found in AFAB (assigned female at birth) folx, and for that very reason, overlooked. Because why study or pay attention to us? lol. Other than my unqualified hunch and the fact that Ritalin, a common ADHD medication, did not work for me as a stimulant (which is how it should function for non-ADHD folx) I didn’t believe that I had much of a case, and didn’t want to go through the arduous (and expensive) process of trying to get diagnosed as an adult. But I was 100% sure that something other than bipolar disorder was affecting my executive functioning, and so I sought out an assessment for learning disabilities so that graduate school won’t be more difficult than it needs to be.
(As a random aside—I am pretty sure that my twin has hyperactive—impulsive or combined type ADHD, many people have suggested this to my father growing up but he of course never got her tested, and it’s totally her prerogative now right? but interestingly, twins are more likely to have adhd and identical twins [my twin and I aren’t identical] are even more likely to develop adhd if the other twin develops it! Learned about this in my disability studies in education class, but this healthline article also mentions this fact!)
I had had an assessment last December and was told that I did not have any learning disability or any attention deficit issues but that I may have some delayed processing and “superior verbal skills” which separates me from my peers and is likely the cause of the isolation and loneliness I experienced growing up. I did not accept those results however, because when I pushed back on the psychologist’s determinations and asked her to further defend her conclusions her response was that I did not struggle at a severe enough level as someone with a learning or intellectual disability would have, even when taking into account masking, as evidenced by my attendance at an elite university. My own therapist has said similar things to me as well. So her assessment was entrenched in ableism and I knew I needed to find someone else.
The doctor who gave me my most recent diagnosis picked up on things that no other provider or assessor ever has, and didn’t use an institution from which I earned my degree as a disqualifier in my diagnosis. Because yes, it is possible to be disabled at elite institutions. In fact, there are many of us here, and we struggle to get through. The last thing we need is for people to invalidate our experiences because of a stupid four letter word.
And I’d like to talk about that struggle a bit, and what reflecting on this diagnosis has revealed to me so far. I’ve talked a bit about how coming from a low income, under-resourced educational environment was the building block for the imposter syndrome I developed attending an Ivy League University, that most often manifested itself as writing anxiety. For a very long time I thought that my anxiety was caused by the fact that I had allowed self doubt to cloud my perception of self, assuming and believing that everyone was more qualified and produced better work than I did because they were more intelligent, came from a more privileged background, or both. I became afraid to show anyone my writing, asked for extensions for even the shortest of assignments, and just couldn’t seem to meet a single deadline (and that’s the story of why my thesis was two months late lol). And there’s truth to that, for sure. But what if my writing anxiety is ADHD in disguise?
I talked to my therapist fairly recently about my writing anxiety and how I hope it doesn’t become too detrimental to my grad school application process this season. He asked me what causes the anxiety and what does it feel like? And I said it’s the pressure of knowing there’s a task and not knowing if I have it in me to complete it, so I avoid it until time is past due, just to find out I was capable all along. And I realized today, reading through and watching videos on inattentive ADHD, that the experience I’m describing is actually a symptom of inattentive ADHD: avoiding activities that require sustained mental effort. Whether it’s writing an essay, doing readings, or completing math problem sets, all of these tasks required focus for substantial periods of time. In K-12, I liked most of my classes and was able to overcome the desire to break concentration, or to cope with it, while doing my homework. I may have watched youtube videos and spent hours on BuzzFeed quizzes or on GoodReads, but at the end my assignments (as long as I remembered to put them in my planner) would all be completed on time. However in college, I was very early conditioned to think that I was less intelligent than my peers and a bad student (thank you math department) despite all the hard work I was putting in, and school became less enjoyable. I even stopped reading for fun! So when school isn’t interesting….it is very hard to motivate myself to do the work.
And in my upper classes I was able to finally focus on material that mattered to me, but by then I had already been brainwashed into believing that I was a difficult student, triggering my anxiety related to anything school related. Because I switched into a paper-writing centric major, my “writing anxiety” was born. But interestingly enough, when I wrote things for me (like on this thought space, in my iPad notes, for AUREA, poetry) that same anxiety wasn’t there. It was just for academic and “professional” writing. And I’m starting to see that the anxiety is not about the act of writing itself, but in making myself work through things that require a lot of effort and that academia conditioned me to dislike. Even projects that I really enjoy and am excited for, like my senior thesis, became a hot ass mess because my brain still believed I could not write.
My grad school application season is just now beginning, so hopefully becoming aware of this provides me the opportunity to change the tide on my relationship to writing as I go on from here. Wish me all the best, and protect your peace bbs.